“but no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.”
–James 3:8 NIV
James focuses on the tongue because the tongue helps form words. It’s not actually the tongue that needs taming, it’s our hearts and minds that motivate us to say things we shouldn’t. I’ve noticed that the older I get, the less I have to say. I’m finally taking my mom’s advice: “If you can’t say anything good, don’t say anything at all.” I’m now working on pointing out the good in people and talking about that. Every day we have the option of using our words to hurt other people, or help them? As children of God, is there really a choice? Why would we ever say anything hurtful to someone, or about someone? Why? Jesus died because He loves not just you and me. He loves ALL people, even the ones we speak evil about. As Jesus hung on the cross He refrained from speaking evil about those who were killing him. Isaiah 53:7 NIV “as a sheep before her shearers is silent, so he did not open his mouth.” Fill your words with “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”: -Galatians 4 Fill your words with the first 8 things in that list and if you can’t, then exercise the 9th thing in that list. In other words, if you can’t say anything good, don’t say anything at all.